As a senior consultant who has taken over many marriage recovery cases, I must give a shot of confidence to all women who want to save their marriages – behind the high divorce rate, it is mostly women who dominate marriages.
In other words, those who have to divorce are often women.
So the success rate of women saving marriages is higher than that of men.
Women are more likely to play the role of payers in marriages, while men who pay less are often reckless and one-sided in their determination to divorce because of low sunk costs. If women use a little trick, men will easily turn back.
In life, it is inevitable to deal with many unsatisfactory things, such as unemployment, broken love, broken marriages, etc. Most people will leave more or less regrets and regrets.
However, nothing in this world is absolute. There are times when things are hard to recover, and there are times when things get better. There are times when good horses don’t turn back, and there are times when prodigals turn back.
When there are problems in marriage, how to choose, whether it is worth persisting, and how to fix the problems, these answers are all in your hands.
The beginning of a marriage is always beautiful. Some people can live together until old age, while others can only go their separate ways. What is the difference?
It lies in your ability to mend.
This is what marriage really tests you.
I found that many people only realize it when their marriage is about to break up – there is really not much time left for you to repair it.
Therefore, driven by this kind of tension, anxiety, and grief, you are likely to do wrong things, and the other party will move away in anger, block you and lose contact, and sue for divorce, which greatly increases the difficulty of recovery.
So if you are sure you want to get back together, then you must not do the following things. Doing so will only hinder you and make it more difficult to get back together:
· Make phone calls and text messages, and keep sending messages if the other party doesn’t reply;
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· Have an emotional breakdown, constantly question and accuse the other party, saying that he is a scumbag and accusing him of being sorry for you;
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· Beg him humbly and beg him not to leave;
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· Swear and abuse the other party;
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· Go to his company and make a scene;
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· Quickly find a new lover of the opposite sex to provoke and retaliate against the other party;
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· Extend the conflict to the other party’s parents;
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· Insult the other party in front of the children/use the children as a tool to threaten the other party;
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What I especially want to tell you is: if you can get to the point where the other party files for divorce, the emotional foundation between you has been almost exhausted. He has no attachment to you, let alone good feelings for you. This relationship has left you with little room for maneuver. If you still operate recklessly, it will only further destroy your relationship.
So don’t be anxious or panic, control your impulses. If you don’t know what to do right, then don’t do anything. If you don’t make mistakes, you won’t lose points, and the relationship won’t deteriorate further.
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