In an age-gap relationship, who is usually more proactive?

The five pairs of sister-brother relationships around me are all like this. Before marriage, the younger brother is more proactive, and proactive in all aspects. He is simply a perfect boyfriend, while the sisters are cautious or politely reject. And the love of those of us who are in ordinary relationships is like this: men and women go back and forth, no one loves who more, they are all the same, I love him, he loves me, I get angry, he gets annoyed, I am willful, he gets angry. At that time, I envied those sisters who were in sister-brother relationships, they were simply spoiled like princesses. Looking back at our own relationships, the little wolf dog in our imagination does not exist, it does not exist! It is even more impossible to have a drama of buying buns for you five kilometers away in the middle of the night! Later, after marriage, my husband is almost better than Qin Hao. He works like a scalper and talks to me every day, but many times it is like educating a daughter. WTF? ? ? I am also considered a strong woman outside, okay? ! ! Romance, Koko, after years of education, I only have some basic skills. It is not as exaggerated as Chen Yangyu, but it also has that flavor. As for sisters who are in a relationship with a younger man, they enter the hard mode after marriage. Their husbands often evade, are irresponsible, or are childish and rebellious. They feel that the woman is not cute anymore and is becoming more and more like an old lady. Especially when it comes to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law issues, the man is more likely to be a mama’s boy. One of my sisters told me a strange story: her mother-in-law came to her house to play for half a month. Every night, she washed her feet and stepped on everything with wet slippers. For such a small matter, the sister asked her husband to talk to her mother-in-law. Her husband said he would find a chance. As a result, he looked for a week and still couldn’t find a chance. The sister got angry and complained that the sister was “too strong and the old lady should be persuaded slowly.” He also didn’t think that his mother stepping on water was a big deal. Why make such a big fuss? When my family encounters such a thing, I usually tell my mother-in-law directly, “Mom, shake off the water.” Or I ask my husband to tell him, and he will go and tell his mother directly, “Mom, you wipe the shoes. It’s hard for me to clean (my husband also cleans often), and he doesn’t have to wait for a minute.” So after marriage, I feel like I have someone to rely on, and my sisters feel like they have an extra son, and they don’t even need to have a second child. Of course, other sister-brother relationships don’t need to refute me, I’m just talking about the situation around me.