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Dating Guide
Within half an hour of the date, there will inevitably be a sense of unfamiliarity. You must know that the girl is waiting for you to start a topic. If the interaction between the two parties cannot mobilize the emotions of both parties at the same time, then it is possible that both parties or one of them will lose interest in the date, and the mood will slowly decline, eventually leading to a breakup.
Control the sense of need. Although the girl will feel mysterious and excited when she sees you for the first time, she will still feel insecure because there is no actual intersection before, and she may even be a little defensive towards you. This is normal, and at this time you need to dispel her concerns and build a sense of comfort. Some brothers may think that being a little enthusiastic and letting the girl see my sincerity should be fine, but doing so will only make the girl wonder if you have any intentions towards her, so pay attention to a sense of proportion, because after all, you are not her, and your thinking cannot represent her.
So when you are not so familiar with each other at the beginning, you should not be very enthusiastic or too proactive, just face her with the mentality of a friend. For example, when you just met and the girl is late, you have already seen her. Don’t rush to run over, but just reach out and signal her. Let her take the initiative to walk towards you. Don’t underestimate this detail. It can make the other person feel that you have no intentions towards her and that you are a high-value person, not a man who can’t walk when he sees a girl. You should know that the purpose of doing this is to reduce the girl’s defensiveness and to prevent you from being in a passive situation and being led by the nose by the girl.
Relieve the tense atmosphere
When you meet for the first time, both of you will basically be a little restrained. At this time, you can use some humorous ways to ease the atmosphere. For example, you can say: “You look different from the photo.” Pause for two seconds, and then say: “The real person is cuter/more mature than the photo” to create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere. Then you can propose to walk along the street with her for about 5 minutes, and then find a cafe that looks quieter and more romantic (the half an hour I asked you to arrive early before was not in vain). At this time, you can sit down and communicate slowly.
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How to interact with girls during a chat
Be assertive
Boys must be assertive when chatting with girls. Specifically, in terms of language, don’t just nod and say yes, or directly make various promises to the other party. Don’t flatter and take the initiative to lead the topic. If the other party is not interested in the topic, switch in time.
When both parties are understanding each other’s values, your language and behavior should be coordinated with each other. Don’t just cater to the other party. The sense of need should be just right.
You may think that frequent praise and nodding are shortcuts to open other people’s hearts, but this is not the case. Girls actually prefer those who are initially cold but become more active in the later stages of the date. This will make girls feel that you like her inner self more than her appearance, which is especially applicable to beautiful girls.
Show the same three views as girls
Whether the three views are consistent to a large extent determines whether a girl wants to have a long-term relationship with you, so during the chat, don’t just talk about things that both of you like, but also try things that neither of you like. Research has found that people are closer when they agree on things they don’t like than when they agree on things they like. If you don’t know what she dislikes, here I suggest that you can start with social hot spots and express your opinions, but don’t be too extreme.
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How to upgrade the relationship when dating
At this time, you and the girl have generally established a sense of familiarity and trust, so you can further upgrade the intimate relationship. If you want a girl to like you, you must provoke the girl’s emotions. As long as the girl has emotional fluctuations towards you, it is not difficult to have feelings. Why do you have emotions? Think about why girls usually like to watch variety shows and Korean dramas. The former is happy and interesting, and the latter is romantic.
So how can you mobilize girls’ emotions? Here are two aspects: verbal teasing and eye contact
Many brothers are too honest when dating girls. They dare not joke with girls, and they are even more embarrassed to say some ambiguous words, but girls will think you are very boring. Maybe it’s appropriate to be friends, but forget about boyfriends. So when you are dating a girl, you must show your wit and humor at the right time, tease the girl, and arouse her heart. Brothers should learn to tease girls in the interaction, so that you can quickly get closer to the girl and create an ambiguous atmosphere. Also, when communicating with a girl, you must look into her eyes to show that you are listening to her carefully. If you like someone, the love in your eyes cannot be hidden. Sometimes you will know whether she likes you or not by exchanging a glance.
Physical contact
When we are dating a girl, if we want to upgrade the relationship, physical contact is an indispensable part. Of course, physical contact is gradual. Even if we want to take advantage of a girl, we should use an elegant posture instead of showing an anxious look at the beginning, which will scare the girl.
When dating a girl, you should take every date seriously. Don’t think that everything is fine just because the girl agrees to your date. In fact, it is not. Dating is just a way for you to increase the distance between you. If you don’t do well in the date, you will still be passed by the girl.
In the final analysis, dating requires sincerity, but sincerity alone is not pleasing.
Routine itself is neither good nor bad, it depends on the purpose of doing it. Being willing to be sincere to the person you like is actually a kind of sincerity~
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