In fact, as long as the girl is willing to go out with you, physical contact can start from the moment you meet.
The timing of physical contact requires you to be keenly aware and complete it naturally according to the girl’s attributes. For example, many people say that holding someone’s hand when crossing the road is easily rejected by women with relatively independent and strong ideas.
But there are some universal ways: for example, when going down the stairs, you can gently hold the girl’s arm, and let go immediately when you are almost done. When walking side by side, touch the other person’s shoulder intentionally or unintentionally.
These two are universal and are very good ways to test favorability: if she is unhappy with you, she will not let you touch her when going down the stairs. If you touch her several times when walking side by side, she will subconsciously distance herself from you and put her bag between you two.
More advanced ones require you to adapt to the situation. For example, when the two of you just met, and you find that the bracelet the girl is wearing is very beautiful, you can just say directly, “Your bracelet is really beautiful, it really matches you, can I see it?” When she reaches out her hand, you grab it, take a look at it, and put it back. You see, just like this, you can have physical contact as soon as you meet.
The key is to take dating seriously! Use your brain more in normal times and be less confused in times of war.
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When dating a girl, when is it appropriate to have physical contact?
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How to break through after a first date?
We have been chatting for more than a week. We made an appointment to meet at a cafe on Monday and then went to a movie. During the movie, I pretended to touch her arm accidentally, but she avoided it after noticing. When I went up and down the elevator and opened the door, I intentionally or unintentionally protected her when I touched her shoulder, but she didn’t say anything. When we talked in the cinema, we were very close and I could smell her body fragrance, but she didn’t avoid it. Usually, I chat with her and we have a lot of topics. What should I do now? Continue dating, chat and watch movies? Or break through directly? How can I break through? Is there any hope? Or is she lonely and looking for someone to play with? Or does the girl have feelings for me and want to continue to contact? Is it too hasty to break through now? How long will it take to break through? How many stages are there from strangers to lovers?
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Small details that add points to boys when dating
1. If she wants to go home, you should send her home. If she doesn’t need it, don’t force her to call a taxi or stop a car. When she gets in the car, remember to use your palm to support the door, don’t let the girl’s head hit it
2. Dress appropriately, your appearance should be dignified and generous, your clothes should look comfortable, and your overall image should be natural and energetic. It would be best if you can spray some light perfume
3. When buying her water or drinks, remember to loosen the cap, not completely, because women have less strength, so she will feel that you are very careful and considerate
4. Look into her eyes when she speaks, open a topic when she is silent, and smile when she smiles, and don’t forget to praise her smile
5. Take the initiative to pay the bill. When she pays the bill, you can say sorry, you don’t like to let girls pay, you go buy a bottle of water. You should let both parties participate, you pay the most, and the girl pays a little
6. When opening the door, remember to open it yourself, and wait for the girl to come out before slowly closing the door
7. Don’t be late, that is the most basic courtesy. You can arrive 10 minutes early
8. Find out in advance whether the place where you are dating is clean, whether you need to queue, whether you need to walk a long way to change places, and whether it is convenient to take a taxi?
9. When eating, help the other party pull the stool first, then sit down opposite, and ask the other party what he likes to eat. If he says he likes anything, then you must ask what type of food he likes, whether he can eat spicy food, whether he can drink frozen drinks, etc.
10. The attitude towards the waiter is particularly important. You should often say thank you, which is more heartwarming than thank you. Girls will see it in their eyes. This is the best time to show your character
11. The walking pace will be slightly slower (boys have long legs, and girls usually wear high heels, so it is easy to walk faster than girls unconsciously. If they are not familiar with each other, girls should secretly follow quickly, but boys usually don’t notice it easily
12. Keep an umbrella in the trunk of the car (this is really a detail.)
13. Let the girls eat first when eating, and leave the last bite of food for the girls (especially when they are all very hungry)
14. Pay attention to your words and deeds, do not say dirty words, spit, shake your legs and cover your face, etc. It is best to put a pack of napkins in your pocket
15. When walking with many people, you should clear the way in front. On the side of the road: you should stand on the side with cars. When going up the stairs, hold her arm , if she has a bag, take the initiative to help her carry it, don’t ask, just do it directly
16. Say important things three times, reply to messages immediately, reply to messages privately, reply to messages immediately (even if you reply, I’m busy)
17. Wherever you go is a living map
18. Take the initiative to help her carry her bag. You will definitely walk a lot on the street when you are dating, and girls will be tired after carrying a backpack for a long time
19. Tissues: Bring a pack is a sure thing, it’s considerate and adds points
20. If you have money, you will get points everywhere, don’t think too much, it’s others who take the initiative to pay for you
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What age difference in an age relationship between an older woman and a younger man is acceptable to you?
A sister in the office next door, 42 years old this year, 166 cm tall, unknown weight, well-maintained body, frequent beauty salon, occasionally gym yoga, fair skin, looks 20+. 4 apartments, 1 Porsche. Her boyfriend is 24, a handsome guy, graduated from a sports school. My sister said her boyfriend has abdominal muscles. During the time when my sister divorced, she was very strong at work, had a bad temper, and dragged her subordinates to work overtime every day. The subordinates complained a lot. In life, she was also unkind, and colleagues avoided her. Since she found her current boyfriend, she has changed completely. The biggest change is that she never works overtime, and she has become gentler. My boyfriend picks me up and drops me off to get off work every day, and he asks me about my well-being on weekdays. He also started to post on WeChat Moments to show off his happiness. In her words, “It doesn’t matter what age gap or brother or sister you have. The key is to be able to look into each other’s eyes and live out your own life.”
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Chatting with boyfriend
1. If a boy makes a promise to you when chatting, such as buying you one next time he sees XXX, you can say:
“Really? Then I’ll start looking forward to it from today”
This will invisibly increase the contractual nature and the possibility of fulfillment.
2. When chatting with a boy, a reply that can be followed by many words is:
“After hearing what you said, I feel that I will feel better tomorrow~”
3. How to respond to a gift from a boy?
“I now find that you are not only a good person, but also have good taste, because I looked around my circle of friends and found that the flowers received by others are not as beautiful as the ones I received.”
Then there is another sentence that can be used as appropriate: “Don’t have such good taste, otherwise I will look forward to what you give me next time.” .
4. When chatting with a boy in daily life, the boy sent an opening message, such as what he is doing and how you are doing today. If the conversation is too dull, you can reply:
“I am not happy right now”
Then when the boy asks you what is wrong, say: “The lunch is so bad, I wonder if it is because I ate alone.”
This is harmless, and the mood of the conversation is mobilized.
5. When the ambiguous boy asks you for a photo during a chat, you can say:
“Why, do you want to use it as a chat/friend circle background?”
6. When you are in a bad mood and the boy comforts you, you can say:
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Do girls want to be penetrated in the morning?
After a girl and a boy have established a relationship, they will find that the boyfriend is actually quite lustful. When two people are dating, the boy will take the initiative to touch the girl as long as there is a chance. Whether it is holding hands or kissing, or other physical contact, as long as there is a first time, every time a girl dates a boy, the boy will silently complete the whole process.
When a boy and a girl are dating, if there is no suitable opportunity to take advantage of the girl, the boy will find ways. For example, when the two just started dating, the boy will take the girl to some more secluded places, such as the corner of the park, a private cinema, etc. In short, no matter what, the boy will create opportunities to take advantage of the girl. The girl knows these little thoughts of the boy. The girl knows it in her heart, but she did not expose the boy because the boy is the girl’s boyfriend.
If a girl and a boy have cooked in a hotel, it is a big deal. Every time a girl and a boy date, the boy will take the initiative to propose to cook in the hotel. Let’s put it this way, eating, watching movies, drinking milk tea, and going to the hotel are the necessary procedures for a boy and a girl to date. After the girl and the boy finish cooking, not only the boy opens the door to a new world, but the girl also opens the door to a new world. Girls will be surprised to find that boys’ private parts are like this, so big when big, so cute when small.
After a boy and a girl have sex, the two will conduct in-depth research on each other’s bodies. After each research, both parties will gain a lot. Especially for girls, every time they finish cooking, girls will have different feelings and experiences. Today, let’s talk about whether girls are willing or want to be “entered” by boys when they get up in the morning?
First, when a girl and a boy are just together and they haven’t learned cooking for a long time, the girl will be unwilling. The reason is very strong. When a girl just wakes up, she will feel that her mouth is not working well again, and she doesn’t want to learn cooking from a boy like this. Therefore, when a boy proposes to cook, the girl will generally refuse. When the two have been together for a long time and their feelings have deepened, the boy proposes to learn cooking together in the morning, and the girl will not refuse.
Second, after a night’s rest, the girl has returned to her best condition. At this time, the boy proposes to cook, and the girl will agree without saying a word. Couples in love, as long as they don’t have to go to work, will definitely study how to cook together after waking up. Especially for college students, when two people go out to get a room, they will definitely cook in the morning!
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How to chat with a girl you just met (online)
In fact, many boys, including myself, may encounter such a situation – I met a girl I am very interested in. This girl may be introduced by a friend, may be in the same circle, or may be directly met on a social platform. After the first “hello” was sent out, we were stuck on the matter of [finding a topic].
I believe that the ice-breaking period is an extremely difficult process in the eyes of many friends, especially for boys who have little experience in dealing with the opposite sex. When they first meet, they don’t know what to talk about or what to say.
Next, I will systematically share with you how to quickly find topics in the initial acquaintance stage and effectively improve the experience and experience of first impression.
This article is for novices, and it talks about very basic things, and the topics discussed are based on love. Experts who specialize in various love fields, please be merciful.
1 Some things you must understand before starting a chat
This paragraph is an explanation of the mentality, and does not contain actual method theory. Friends with more urgent needs can skip and start reading directly from the second section.1.1 Self-awareness – Many girls say they like boys with a sense of propriety
Before talking about self-awareness, we actually need to reflect on the roots of words such as “lower-headed men” or “ordinary men” that girls often say. These words are very derogatory comments on boys, and girls often make such comments on boys when they just get to know each other.Boys who get such comments usually make a very fatal mistake in the initial stage. I prefer to call this mistake “crossing the line”.
This is also one of the minefields for most girls, and according to my experience, if you want to vote and rank the behaviors of boys that girls hate the most, crossing the line is likely to be ranked in the top three.
What is crossing the line? I summarize it like this:
Doing inappropriate behavior under an inappropriate identity is crossing the line.
So what are the more typical behaviors of crossing the line? Let’s give a few examples and you will know.
(1) Inappropriate requests and inquiries:
“Look at the photos.”
“You are from Beijing, too, right? Which neighborhood do you live in?”
“Let’s go out for a drink tonight?”
“What do we know? We can get to know each other by drinking together.”
If you ask about the other person’s information recklessly when you just met, it is very impolite and can easily cause the other person to be disgusted. If you have not done the above behaviors, then you can still be saved. However, many people will fall into the next trap.
(2) Random comments and deliberate condescension:
“You look good in the photo, is it photoshopped?”
“You live in Beijing too? Can a little girl like you afford to rent a house in Beijing?”
“I see you’ve just entered society and you probably don’t have much social experience. Sometimes you need to learn some social etiquette. People invite you out for drinks because they think highly of you.”
“Not familiar? I think we’re quite familiar. Why are you being so reserved?”
The above behaviors are all serious mistakes. That is, you deliberately put yourself in a position that you think is very high and communicate with the other party in a condescending manner. This is taboo and is most likely to cause resentment.
When a relationship is at the beginning stage, we strongly discourage random comments on the other party. Even if it is a compliment, I think you need to think twice before you act.
(3) Digging into the root of a problem and checking the household registration
“How old are you?”
“Where are you from?”
“What’s your zodiac sign?”
“Where did you go to college?”
“What do you do?”
“Which department?”
“How much do you earn a month?”
This is also a mistake that many people make. Although this behavior is not as bad as the previous two examples, it is not advisable to blindly check the household registration and dig into the root of a problem. In fact, it is okay to ask these questions separately, but you cannot pile up a bunch of questions and ask them continuously.
The reason why checking the household registration causes disgust is that it comes from the disgust generated by constant questioning.
Okay, back to the topic. We just shared three typical cross-border behaviors. After going around in circles, we just want to remind everyone that self-positioning is a very important thing. In short, it is “having a sense of propriety.”
Does not crossing the line mean having a sense of propriety?
No, a sense of propriety is not not making mistakes, but a state, a habit, or even a state of mind.
The key to mastering the sense of propriety lies in:
(1) Look at yourself objectively
Don’t be proud of your wealth, and don’t be discouraged by your hidden talents.
Whether you are the boss of a listed company or a security guard with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan, as long as you decide to get in touch with that girl, you should not attach unnecessary emotions.
These emotions include but are not limited to the arrogance and inferiority mentioned above, as well as your doubts, concerns, entanglements, and hesitations about your own personality and experience.
Because you have decided to get in touch with her, before getting in touch with her, you can of course be entangled and calculate whether you are worthy of her or whether she is suitable for you, but as long as you decide to get along, don’t be fussy.
Look at your own strengths objectively and understand your own shortcomings objectively.
For example, if you are a 1.76-meter-tall office worker in a third-tier city with a monthly salary of about 7,000 yuan, then from an objective perspective, your actual conditions in your living environment are actually above the average level. Don’t let your height not exceed 1.8 meters or your salary not exceed 10,000 yuan or something like that make you crazy. You are you, and your current conditions cannot be changed in the short term.
It is enough for you to know your own situation.
Of course, you should not be complacent and think that you are good enough.
(2) Look at others objectively
To be honest, I will also be very nervous when facing beautiful women. I can say responsibly that if my blind date was Zhang Ruonan, I would definitely be so nervous that I would be speechless!
This is human nature. When we face beautiful things, we can’t help but look up, but this emotion is theoretically not recommended because it will give rise to another terrible problem – licking.
Many boys will unconsciously reduce their relationship to a goddess and admirer relationship in their love experience. To put it bluntly, it is the relationship of Feiyangyang and Meiyangyang, which is often mentioned in online chats. The origin of this unhealthy relationship is often because the boys over-beautify the girls in their minds.
This will also lead to the second more serious hidden danger. After we add too many filters to girls, the objects we get along with often become “the one we imagine”, and this situation often lasts for a long time and even continues after the relationship ends. Once in the process of fantasy, the object girl does something that violates your fantasy personality, it will cause a great sense of gap and unreality.
I think the above situation is very undesirable and unhealthy, and I strongly recommend that everyone pay attention to it.
Of course, love that is too rational loses its original meaning. Admiration, expectation and fantasy are indeed the root of the sweetness of love. So please look at this suggestion dialectically. In theory, we advocate rationality. Emotionally, I also encourage you to love as much as you can. As for how to find a better balance, it depends on your own awareness.
(3) Recognize and respect differences
You may like reading, and she may be keen on online dramas and variety shows.
You have your hobbies, and she has her habits. The so-called three views are compatible or not, which does not mean that you and I must have the same personality, temper, hobbies and habits. Completely the same is called a clone.
What is the compatibility of three views? It means that you know that she likes to watch variety shows, but you will not say that what she reads is not nutritious. It means that she knows that you like to read, but she will not say that you are pretending to be literary.
This is especially important for two people who have just met. In the initial contact, we will definitely express our interests and hobbies to each other. At this time, we must respect other people’s preferences and behaviors.
Never casually question behaviors that you do not understand.
For example, I once met a girl who clearly expressed her “unfilial piety” during our conversations, and even repeatedly criticized her parents and family of origin. Many people who believe that filial piety is the most important virtue may criticize this girl’s views without thinking.
But in fact, I do not recommend that you do this, because this is her point of view, and we have not experienced her life, so we cannot empathize with why others have such thoughts. Therefore, if you and I are just acquainted and not even friends, we should not point fingers at other people’s opinions. (Except in extreme cases, such as opinions that harm ourselves or others, we still need to stop them in time, and there is no such thing as respect or disrespect.)
In short:
Non-interference is the greatest respect for others.
(4) Maintain sufficient politeness
I will not waste time on this point. Combined with the content of the first half of the article, it actually emphasizes the requirement of politeness.
(5) Maintain your own self. Respect is not flattery.
We need to be humble, but we should not be too humble. Being polite and enthusiastic is right, while being humble and flattering is wrong.
Respect is not flattery. We should not give up our own principles and bottom line for respect. Some friends like whatever a girl they just met likes and cater to whatever she likes to talk about in order to please her.
I think this is also unhealthy. For example, I like to watch Dragon Ball and she likes to watch Legend of Zhen Huan. I will never watch Legend of Zhen Huan seriously just to cater to her preferences! It’s too brain-burning! I can’t understand it at all!
We should maintain our own three views instead of overly accommodating the other person just to cater to the girl.
If you are not used to drinking red wine or wearing a tuxedo, you don’t have to pretend to be elegant as she said, otherwise you will only lose yourself.
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N routines for dating, you must learn to use your hands and feet when dating
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Dating GuideWithin half an hour of the date, there will inevitably be a sense of unfamiliarity. You must know that the girl is waiting for you to start a topic. If the interaction between the two parties cannot mobilize the emotions of both parties at the same time, then it is possible that both parties or one of them will lose interest in the date, and the mood will slowly decline, eventually leading to a breakup.
Control the sense of need. Although the girl will feel mysterious and excited when she sees you for the first time, she will still feel insecure because there is no actual intersection before, and she may even be a little defensive towards you. This is normal, and at this time you need to dispel her concerns and build a sense of comfort. Some brothers may think that being a little enthusiastic and letting the girl see my sincerity should be fine, but doing so will only make the girl wonder if you have any intentions towards her, so pay attention to a sense of proportion, because after all, you are not her, and your thinking cannot represent her.
So when you are not so familiar with each other at the beginning, you should not be very enthusiastic or too proactive, just face her with the mentality of a friend. For example, when you just met and the girl is late, you have already seen her. Don’t rush to run over, but just reach out and signal her. Let her take the initiative to walk towards you. Don’t underestimate this detail. It can make the other person feel that you have no intentions towards her and that you are a high-value person, not a man who can’t walk when he sees a girl. You should know that the purpose of doing this is to reduce the girl’s defensiveness and to prevent you from being in a passive situation and being led by the nose by the girl.
Relieve the tense atmosphere
When you meet for the first time, both of you will basically be a little restrained. At this time, you can use some humorous ways to ease the atmosphere. For example, you can say: “You look different from the photo.” Pause for two seconds, and then say: “The real person is cuter/more mature than the photo” to create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere. Then you can propose to walk along the street with her for about 5 minutes, and then find a cafe that looks quieter and more romantic (the half an hour I asked you to arrive early before was not in vain). At this time, you can sit down and communicate slowly.
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How to interact with girls during a chatBe assertive
Boys must be assertive when chatting with girls. Specifically, in terms of language, don’t just nod and say yes, or directly make various promises to the other party. Don’t flatter and take the initiative to lead the topic. If the other party is not interested in the topic, switch in time.
When both parties are understanding each other’s values, your language and behavior should be coordinated with each other. Don’t just cater to the other party. The sense of need should be just right.
You may think that frequent praise and nodding are shortcuts to open other people’s hearts, but this is not the case. Girls actually prefer those who are initially cold but become more active in the later stages of the date. This will make girls feel that you like her inner self more than her appearance, which is especially applicable to beautiful girls.
Show the same three views as girls
Whether the three views are consistent to a large extent determines whether a girl wants to have a long-term relationship with you, so during the chat, don’t just talk about things that both of you like, but also try things that neither of you like. Research has found that people are closer when they agree on things they don’t like than when they agree on things they like. If you don’t know what she dislikes, here I suggest that you can start with social hot spots and express your opinions, but don’t be too extreme.
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How to upgrade the relationship when datingAt this time, you and the girl have generally established a sense of familiarity and trust, so you can further upgrade the intimate relationship. If you want a girl to like you, you must provoke the girl’s emotions. As long as the girl has emotional fluctuations towards you, it is not difficult to have feelings. Why do you have emotions? Think about why girls usually like to watch variety shows and Korean dramas. The former is happy and interesting, and the latter is romantic.
So how can you mobilize girls’ emotions? Here are two aspects: verbal teasing and eye contact
Many brothers are too honest when dating girls. They dare not joke with girls, and they are even more embarrassed to say some ambiguous words, but girls will think you are very boring. Maybe it’s appropriate to be friends, but forget about boyfriends. So when you are dating a girl, you must show your wit and humor at the right time, tease the girl, and arouse her heart. Brothers should learn to tease girls in the interaction, so that you can quickly get closer to the girl and create an ambiguous atmosphere. Also, when communicating with a girl, you must look into her eyes to show that you are listening to her carefully. If you like someone, the love in your eyes cannot be hidden. Sometimes you will know whether she likes you or not by exchanging a glance.
Physical contact
When we are dating a girl, if we want to upgrade the relationship, physical contact is an indispensable part. Of course, physical contact is gradual. Even if we want to take advantage of a girl, we should use an elegant posture instead of showing an anxious look at the beginning, which will scare the girl.
When dating a girl, you should take every date seriously. Don’t think that everything is fine just because the girl agrees to your date. In fact, it is not. Dating is just a way for you to increase the distance between you. If you don’t do well in the date, you will still be passed by the girl.
In the final analysis, dating requires sincerity, but sincerity alone is not pleasing.
Routine itself is neither good nor bad, it depends on the purpose of doing it. Being willing to be sincere to the person you like is actually a kind of sincerity~
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Beginners should be careful when picking up girls, and use routines to avoid these 4 types of women
1. Young girls
As long as they are younger than you, you think such girls are easier to flirt with. This is actually a big mistake. Women’s psychological age is generally much more mature than men of the same age, especially in emotional issues. So if you are a novice, don’t use those very low-level routines to chat with them, they have seen it when they were very young.
Nowadays, there are really many children who are in love in elementary school and kindergarten. Early love is really much earlier. In the past, falling in love in junior high school and high school was considered early love, but now when you browse Weibo, you are often shown affection by elementary school students. Some little boys’ means of flirting with girls are much better than many adult men.
So don’t take it for granted that young girls are easy to flirt with. The key is to understand the girl’s mind.
2. Girls with relatively low appearance
Many guys will practice with girls with relatively low appearance when they flirt with girls for the first time, thinking that this will increase their success rate. Then they flirt and flirt, and then nothing else happens…
First of all, girls are all the same. If you look at them differently with tinted glasses, then don’t blame the girls for dividing you into rich and poor. There is no difference between the two. Girls all have common characteristics, but at the same time they have their own personalities. If you really want to attract a girl, you should understand what type of boy she should like, instead of deciding whether it is suitable for you based on her appearance.
So, don’t take everything for granted. Under the premise of attraction, you should target the drug and analyze specific problems.
3. Girls who just broke up
Some boys may silently like a girl who has a boyfriend, and finally wait until she breaks up, so they are happy to think that their time has come. They will go up to comfort the girl when they get the chance and take the opportunity to confess. I really have nothing to say about this situation.
What I want to say is that some girls are more vulnerable when they break up, so if there is a member of the opposite sex around them who is particularly good to them when they break up, it is easy to have a good impression of him and then get together. But such feelings are very fragile. You are based on sympathy or you take advantage of her when she is most vulnerable. When she comes to her senses, she will consider breaking up with you.
A friend told me before that when he and she met, they were both heartbroken. The two met too late and had a lot of common topics to talk about. After talking for a long time, they found that their careers were very complementary, so they got together soon. As a result, after a period of time, the relationship became more and more awkward. The woman was neither cold nor hot, and the man felt boring.
So in the end, you can only do much better than blindly flirting with her if you grasp the girl’s mind.
4. Older single leftover women
You think that when women get older, they can’t wait to get married, so you take it for granted that they are easy to flirt with. This is a completely wrong idea. When a woman reaches this age, if she is anxious, it means that she really wants to get married, but if you are not qualified, she will still ignore you. Anyway, she has waited for so long and doesn’t care about one or two years. So in the end, you still have to understand the girl’s mind, otherwise you will only humiliate yourself if you rush forward.
Most of the single leftover women now have a very refined life, with a house, a car and financial ability. They can live well alone, but they find it troublesome to have one more person. So they will not find a boyfriend to marry casually because of the pressure of reality. What they need is a man who understands and loves her. If you can do it, you can try it.
There are also some single leftover women who have been hurt in love to a greater or lesser extent. They don’t show it, but it doesn’t mean they don’t have it. They are very disappointed in men, so it is easy to fail if you rush forward to flirt with her. Even if she is very polite to you and it is not very embarrassing to contact you, but after a long time, you will find that there is a distance between you that you can never walk away.
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The four no principles of flirting with girls
1. Don’t apologize. When you chat and tease her, the scale is a little bit bigger. The girl is unhappy. Just pretend that it never happened and pay attention next time. If you don’t take it seriously, she will not take it seriously either. Once you apologize, hum, sorry, this matter is a big deal, and the girl will magnify your mistake.
2. Don’t pester. If you chat with a girl and she doesn’t reply in the end, then don’t chat with her. If she doesn’t want to pay attention to you, you should stop eating, sleeping, and doing things all day long, like a plaster. The girl will think of ways to get rid of you. If you don’t pester her, she will pester you in return.
3. Don’t explain. Do you often flirt with girls like this? Do you want to pick me up? Don’t explain when you encounter such questions. It’s obviously a trap. Don’t jump in stupidly. The less you explain, the more curious she will be about you. Once she is curious, she will fall deeper and deeper into you and fall in love with you (if you have answers that can attract girls, then some pitfall questions can also be answered).
4. Don’t confront. Some boys like to control girls when they have nothing to do. Well, don’t stay up so late, you will have no energy the next day. Well, drink less alcohol when you have nothing to do, it’s not good for your health. You are not her parents or relatives, who nag her endlessly every day (after all, you have heard it countless times when you grew up, and you can say that your ears are calloused). It is enough to get along with her easily and happily. You just follow her and support her unconditionally. On the contrary, she will feel that you understand her very well.